I had an interesting conversation with my aunt tonight.

We talked about parenting and reasons behind the problems that I have and the problems my brother is likely to face.

Essentially the way she parents, and may of my friends' parents parent, is by setting their child up for success and allowing them to grow-up and do things themselves. They are given a chance to explore and learn about themselves and really just get out there and take advantage of their life and the way they want to live it. When they leave home it's with the expectation that they will return home to visit and the obligations that their parents put on them is minimal. It is assumed that the bonds built between parent and child is strong enough to withstand not living within the same four walls. These parents want nothing but the best for their child and don't hold them back. Eventually they'll need care but their children are not raised for the purpose of their care. They love and love and expect nothing back.

That's how Cayden and Conway will be. In fact that's the way a lot of kids are these days.

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Motivation is something that you can't really be taught. They say I lack motivation and drive. They're right.

They also say I have issues motivating myself because I was raised to take care of my parents, never to explore the world out there. I was raised to be confined to my parents' house when I was told the sky's the limit.

One step at a time. The four walls are gone.

Oh money money money...you can only buy so much and you can only fix so much. All the toys and gadgets in the world couldn't solve this problem now.